I cannot stretch this enough, the "welp that happens" mentality is what allows the government to treat us the way they do, everyone just copes their way around into seeing that many of their problems originate from people with power and responsibility that fucks around with others' money and resources.
I wanna be supportive and the best way of doing it is to flag this type of thinking. You got attacked, and there is someone responsible for that, they have to respond after their actions. Otherwise you are just letting someone else do it again.