QT of [@FinalGirl](https://blackqueer.life/@FinalGirl )
Grab a cuppa. This is a long one.
One of things I've learned from transitioning is how my relationship to feminism has changed. And I've also learned about myself from my view of the world as a lesbian. A lot of this education has come from cis and trans women, both straight, gay and bi, here on Mastodon and out in the world.
I still have a lot to learn but the fundamental thing that has sunk in is decentering men. There was the "choose the bear" moment. There continues to be "men aren't lonely enough" statements. There are a constant responses of "not all men but always a man" and other examples of decentering men that I come across on a daily basis. It seems women have had it.
And here's where Tyla's post intersects. It's eye opening to realize her take that taking the pill and then the shot was the easy part of transition. It's true. It's the unlearning of all the crap from the before times that is the mind fuck. That's the hard part. And it's the unlearning all the wrongness that Tyla spoke of that's healing.
As I've learned to decenter men and lose the idea of everything revolving around the male gaze, I've learned the value of women isn't measured by how attractive she is, how youthful she is, how fuckable she is.
It's measured by SO many other aspects of our character. And when women lift each other up?... when we compliment each other and cheer each other on and all the stuff'; it hits different. That's the good stuff.
It's then.... then we begin to learn our about ourselves. We learn our attractiveness and fuckability from a woman's perspective, gay or straight, which is exponentially different from that of a man's, is undeniably meaningful to our emotional and mental well being.
https://blackqueer.life/@FinalGirl/115980340257875191
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