interesting reasoning!
I'm pretty sure #syncthing will be able to satisfy your requirements. I'm probably less advanced than you are, but I managed to have my home folder shared between 2 systems, with some .config files excluded.
Maybe something else to consider: make hardlinks for some config files to have them present in a specific folder, and sync that folder? This way, you sync the folder and the hardlinks on each system take care of actually using those config files, if you see what I mean?
Gauff
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2026-08-06 15:42:22 UTC
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